Holidays are traditionally viewed as a time to celebrate. Many people enjoy reuniting with family and friends, giving and receiving gifts, and celebrating religious traditions during this time. However, sometimes people with cancer and their loved ones feel “out of step” from the rest of the world during the holidays. In fact, the holiday season can prompt new questions, such as: How do I take care of the holiday rush and myself at the same time? How can I celebrate when I have so many other things on my mind? What will my life be like next year? Sharing these concerns with the people you love and who love you can help you feel more connected.
Here are some additional tips for coping with cancer during the holidays:
Make plans to get together with friends, family or co-workers over the holidays. Trying to celebrate alone can be very difficult, so accept some invitations from others, or join an organized group activity through your local YMCA, YWCA, church or synagogue. Find the right balance between celebrating with family and friends and spending the time you may need on your own. Give yourself permission to pace your activities and to decline an invitation or two so that you have the energy to enjoy the gatherings that are most important to you.
Create a new holiday season tradition that makes the most of your energy. Change your usual holiday activities so you relieve yourself of some of the pressures of entertaining. Have a “pot luck,” with family members each bringing a dish for the meal, have someone else host the meal, or suggest eating out at a favorite restaurant.
Enjoy special moments. Try to focus on new traditions that have been established, rather than dwelling on how cancer has changed a holiday or special occasion.
Talk to your health care team about upcoming special events. They may be flexible about appointments in order to accommodate travel or other needs.
Be an innovative shopper or gift giver. Use mail order catalogues, shop over the telephone, or try online shopping this year. You can also make a gift of sharing your thoughts and feelings. Write a short note or make a phone call to let others know that you are thinking about them.
Express your feelings in ways that help you receive the support of the important people in your life.Tears can bring a sense of relief. Laughter can be relaxing. Sharing can be comforting. It is common to experience a mixture of anticipation, excitement and apprehension about the future. Let your feelings breathe, and talk them over with a loved one, friend or professional counselor.
Celebrate strengths you and your loved ones have developed. Many families who face the day-to-day challenges of cancer discover strengths and courage they didn’t know they had. Reflect on the strengths you have developed, and build on them during the holidays.
Newly diagnosed cancer patients who use the Internet to gather Information about their disease have a more positive outlook and are more active participants in their treatment, according to a new Temple University study published in the March 2006 Issue of the Journal of Health Communication.
“This is the first study to look at the relationship between Internet use and patient behaviors; said principal Investigator and public health professor Sarah Bass, Ph.D. “We wanted to see if access to readily available Information about their condition helped patients to cope with Issues such as hair loss and other treatment side effects.”
For this study, the researchers recruited patients who called a National Cancer Institute-funded 1-800 number, where trained specialists answered questions about the disease and directed callers to cancer- related resources in their area. Once selected, the 442 participants were broken into “direct user, Indirect user and non user” categories based on their Internet usage patterns.
According to Bass, direct and indirect users tended to be females between the ages of 50 and 60 who had graduated from college and made more than $60,000 a year. During the survey, Bass and her colleagues began to see strong parallels between Internet use and the patients’ feelings about t heir treatment . Those who used the Internet and those who received Internet information from family members or friends were more likely to view their relationship with their doctors as a partnership, and were more comfortable asking questions and challenging treatment alternatives.
“They saw the Internet as a powerful tool that enhanced their decision-making ability,” Sass said.
Moreover, Bass and her team were pleasantly surprised by the number of early nonusers who after eight weeks turned to the Internet for information. When asked about the change, approximately 75 percent said that either family/friend encouragement or the cancer diagnosis Itself prompted them to increase their internet use.
“They didn’t want to feel powerless or have to rely on the doctor to make all of the decisions” Bass said.
Bass warns that as more and more funding Is cut for medical phone hotlines, now Is the time for doctors and health workers to encourage patients to do their own research on the Web. “But as with most things, let the buyer beware. Stick to Web sites that are associated with large, well -recognized non-profit groups, or get recommendations from your physician.”
May 28, 2002
(The New York Times News Service) — MaryBeth Zea of Little Falls, Minn., was only 28, married but childless, when breast cancer struck in 1988.
The surgeon who performed her mastectomy told her that because her cancer was not hormone-sensitive, pregnancy would probably not make much difference to her chances of a recurrence. He told her that pregnancy was a personal choice.
But MaryBeth was afraid that the stress of pregnancy and its outpouring of hormones could stimulate a regrowth of cancer. She also feared what would become of a baby if she should get sick again. And so she chose to remain childless and devote herself instead to her marriage and career, now as a still-healthy portrait photographer.
When Randi Gaier, a 34-year-old mother of two preschoolers in Wynnewood, Pa., was treated for Hodgkin’s disease 15 years ago, surgeons first moved her ovaries out of the radiation field before administering the radiation therapy that treated her. Still, she worried enough about the possibility of a recurrence and whether her body could sustain a pregnancy to wait six years into marriage before trying to start a family.
Today, as millions of men and women of childbearing age and younger are surviving cancer, the question of reproduction is arising as a paramount consideration in planning treatment. Among the issues are the ability to preserve fertility while curing the disease and the safety of pregnancy for both mothers with cancer and their future children.
In a continuing study of more than 20,000 survivors of childhood cancers, the two greatest concerns mentioned by former patients two and three decades later are “Can I have children?” and “If I have children, will they be healthy?” said Dr. Leslie Robison, an epidemiologist at the University of Minnesota Medical School, who directs the project involving 25 cancer centers. “Today more than 75 percent of children with cancer are being cured, yet we know little about the side effects of treatment beyond the first 10 years.”
While some cancer treatments – drugs as well as radiation – can cause sterility or reduced fertility in men and women, preliminary evidence suggests that cancer therapy, in general, affects the ability to reproduce and to produce healthy children less than previously thought. At the same time, new ways are being devised to reduce the effects of cancer treatments on fertility and on pregnancies already in progress when a cancer is discovered.
In the first report on reproductive issues from the 25-center study, soon to be published in The American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, the researchers found that while higher rates of miscarriage and lower birth weights were observed among the offspring of former patients, “there are a large number of live births, births of healthy children, a lack of congenital abnormalities and very low cancer rates,” Robison said.
“The data are extremely reassuring,” she added. “It’s a very good-news type of report.” The researchers would not provide details of the findings before publication.
Dr. Giuseppe Del Priore, director of gynecologic oncology at Bellevue Hospital in New York, and his colleagues at the New York University School of Medicine noted in the January issue of Contemporary Ob/Gyn: “Less than a generation ago, reproductive-aged women with cancer generally had little to hope for and even less to look forward to. But things have changed. Many cancers are no longer a death sentence. More and more women with cancer are now becoming pregnant and raising legitimate fertility concerns.”
Today, a doctor could tell Zea of Minnesota and other women like her that pregnancy is no longer ill-advised. Even women whose breast cancers are discovered during pregnancy should no longer be advised to terminate the pregnancy, because there are no data indicating a therapeutic benefit from such an abortion, the New York experts said.
The estrogen produced in pregnancy is weaker than estrogen produced in other women and is less likely to stimulate breast cancer growth, even if the woman’s tumor is estrogen-sensitive.
Today, too, even cancers directly involving the reproductive organs – ovaries, uterus and cervix – can sometimes be treated in ways that permit future pregnancies and the births of healthy babies. Many of the modern chemotherapeutic agents are less damaging to ovarian function than the older drugs and do not induce permanent early menopause. Thus, a woman’s fertility may return months or even years after treatment ends.
Fears that potent cancer-fighting drugs will damage the DNA of a woman’s eggs or a man’s sperm and result in birth defects have not been borne out by experience.
As Dr. Elyce H. Cardonick, a perinatologist at Thomas Jefferson University Hospital in Philadelphia, wrote in the March/April issue of Coping magazine, “The medical literature contains reports of children born of parents previously treated for cancer, including Hodgkin’s disease, leukemia, melanoma and breast cancer, and no excess of birth defects or medical diseases is reported compared to the general population.”
She continued, “There is also no report of damage to the children’s chromosomes, despite their parents’ preconceptual cancer therapy.”
Dr. John J. Mulvihill, a pediatric geneticist formerly with the National Cancer Institute and now at the University of Oklahoma Health Sciences Center, has studied this question in thousands of patients who were treated for cancer early in life and were monitored for decades. He said in an interview, “We can be quite reassuring that if fertility is maintained, there will be no increased risk of birth defects or genetic disease.”
There are, however, cancers that run in families, and susceptibility to these cancers could be transmitted to patients’ children, but the treatment itself is not now considered a factor influencing genetic risk.
Mulvihill said he would like to do more detailed studies to determine whether subtle injuries to the human genome might occur from the chemicals and radiation used in cancer treatments.
“Our knowledge of the genetic effects of environmental insults come largely from studies in mice,” Mulvihill said. “Maybe people are protected against environmentally induced genetic insults. Perhaps the testes and ovaries are different, less vulnerable than other tissues. We know that mutations must occur, but maybe it’s a rare event. We have to study this at the DNA level.”
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